it is time to begin this

Open Letter to those have made life and those around a living hell

About 16 or so yrs ago, my dad, Joe De Marco made the conscience decision to make his own daughter’s life a down ward spiral to hell and gone.
I had left my son with he and my mother Vivian De Marco because I wanted to find a better life out side of the economically and sociological depressed town of Weirton WV.

That was one of the biggest mistakes of my life. Once I left to travel west for work , my parents make tracks to the court house claiming I am the town whore and abandonment was my life and dropped of the boy with no know intent of where I was or going.
They knew I was headed to Seattle WA with an interview in hand.

I get this interview by was of temp agency and hired in about 3 weeks. I come home and tell my father once I get me settled I will come home to get the boy once I know all is secure. I had no real place to live yet or anything. I didn’t think it was a good idea to take him with me yet.
I leave and think all is fine, they return to the court and say she is off again.
They receive full custody and an order for 386.00 a month for support. On the idea that I am full employee. Yet they say they have no idea where I am. With temp agency they reserve the right to let you go within 90days. At will employment, unless the employer takes you on. I got let go on day 46. So my income went from 2500. a month to 8.67 hr,. Still having to 386.00 month to my dad.

Moving forward in time my dad is now passed on and my mom is still chasing me for this money. I now have a full diagnosis of Vascular Lupus with kidney involvement. In other words I am full disabled. To my mom this is just an excuse. In her words,” I have a broken back I work” “ I knew a woman who had lupus and still played golf and moved to FL.” Well that is her not me. I can’t have this because it would make me more sick than my mom is sick. She broke her back long time ago. Has RA and other things
She did go through a triple bi pass. I am no making light of her condition.

I have 4 medical reports from different places that will back this all up. No standing for more than 15 min. No walking for more than 75 yds. Sitting for more than 25 min. lack of range of motion. Blood tests to proof of all this. It is all made up to my mom. Excuses. Moms will scrub floors for a kid.

Now with this Child support on my file I appear as if to have Federal debt on my record and no would hire me anyway with this. She will not drop this. She is more concerned with her money coming to her and what is left sitting there. Why doesn’t she run down there and her 400.. greedy bitch. Mind you child support has none of these records of my disability. But they would not accept them anyway. Because it disagrees with what they want.

She has ruined my life by this I can’t buy anything or the like. We have not had a tax return in 10 yrs because of her. My marriage is on the rocks because of her an I am going to lose my SSDI for her. This is all she is interested in. She will drain me dry before she is happy. Her concern is only of Vivian and what she gets out of life. She said that my husband needs to divorce me because I don’t work. She has this idea that we have this money laying about and I can just send it when ever. 500.00 here and 300.00 here. Just like that. No problem. Between a mortgage and car and insurance and thing we have about 150 each pay left for us.
We did buy him a computer paid a cell phone bill and get things he really wanted, paid for some of a karate bill. It may not be a lot but it is some things. I do what I can when I can. Couldn’t pay for a new pair of glasses, sorry. Don’t have 300.00 just laying around. Bought second hand doors for the house by the way. Took money from a 401k to help pay for other needed things. Yea we have money… why are we taking it from there.
Hubby has no raise for 2 1/2 yrs and yet we keep moving on. No one is helping us here.
I want my son out here to live and work for a while to keep him from the life there of infused depression and nothingness there. His friends are more important to him right now. They are going to pay the bills and keep him. Right all 19 and 20 and wealthy. Walk the neighbor hood and smoke black and milds.
At least here he would have a job and maybe an education. He can’t even get that back there.
Other than an old woman to hound him of how bad he does everything and not done right.
This total is now over 30,000

The parents who went behind my back to do this what more or less could they then do.
I thought parents were to help and no hinder a child.. They have done so much worse. Never encourage or to build up only you can’t do nothing right. Or you don’t this like this. Never a good job. I failed to mention that these people are claiming to be good up standing Catholics… I do have to remember she has all the answers, she is right and 86. Lived the world and it problems and she is the sage for all No one has better wisdom than her. They have no respect for the privacy of one. Accused me of stealing from them. Because they thought, note that word, thought, I needed money.. She said I stole her good and precious jewelry from here and sold it a pawn shop. The police were called and they said if I left with my husband who is from the UK it would be come an Interpol case. My thought was let it. It turned out my daughter did it. No apology. But that is how much they think of me. This woman who claims she has a heart. She is too kind not to help others .Not mean or would give the shirt off her back, because she is a good Christian.
She claims she is the only one who would work to keep the kids. She will bring up things of 25 yrs ago to remind one of the mistakes you have made.

Claire Redfern