Thursday, September 24, 2009
grams' money
we all love gram for the money they give our kids. That is all fine and well. nothing wrong when they hand our kids a 20.00 or the what ever it is. We like that. It shows they want to help us and the kids love the idea they get this too. But when gram starts to tell the kids they need money to all things and that it is more important than other things. To marry someone with money to take care of you. Or if you don't have it you are less of a person, that is so not right. It has been said that the love of money is root of all evil. You can't have money and a good heart. One will cancel out the other. God chose the poor. If you can't live if you lost all things, you need to re evaluate your life. My mom couldn't survive if that happened. To many get wrapped up in what is being left to whom. Who is in my will and who is not.. so what. If that is what is consuming your life you need some real help. You need to be more concerned with the person that what they have. I see it this way, I don't care where you come from or what you have or don't have, it is who you are a person. Respect is given and honor is earned. Respect you simply for the sake that you are human. Most people what to know how much you make and all of that. what happened to the fact of you are person first?
Thursday, September 17, 2009
the hurt
How my parent have hurt me. As a child they didn't allow any privacy. They accused me always being up to something and sneaking. They would search my books from school, and my bags. I was always hiding something. In truth, I never got drunk or did drugs, went out the bedroom window. I had one boyfriend in high school. I was the one child who was always pick on in school. " dummy DeMarco" . No one ever took it seriously and was the one who most didn't know what there. I felt I always had the retarded look to me. We all know that look. the stupid little smirk and no real look to the eyes. They would look up my uniform and laugh and say I wore flowered underware. I had no breast to speak of and the other girls would flaunt the blossoming nibs. I began my cycles at an early age, and was miserable. I was small and no real figure. I looked more like a boy in a strange body. No one ever played with me on the recess. I just sat and watched them all. Who would want to be with someone like me? I just would read books. I remember once I was reading a bible, and they why would I want to read that, at least it is better than the stuff you have and it is a true story. I never did good after that. I was all of 7 yrs old. My mom never did anything to stop it.
I remember in about 8th grade one girl who really just didn't like me, she pushed a desk into the back of my legs, I turned around and gave her a left hook of a lifetime. Knocked her back about 5 ft and up about 2ft. Most were really suprised. I just looked at her said do it again I will put you into the closet. They cleared a path like the red sea.
I thought school was to be the time of your life. It depressed me to no end
I wanted to run away every morning I got up. From my home and from the kids I was with.
I hated the town I was in just as much. I knew at some point I would have to leave and never look back. I did move on but the hurt is still there. Because of the instilling of my upbringing and the fact of my mothers' still living.
The accusation of me allowing my own daughter to be molested.
My own father said I didn't give it to my husband so he went to my girl.
He said that I abandoned my son. I left him with my parents to keep so I could find work.
They told my kids that I was a bad person and a whore. didn't want them and they would take better care of them.
That is was more important to get a deposit back than protect my kid from now sex offender.
My mom will allow my ex in her house he is a registered sex offender but I am the bad one for not paying more for my son's support.
My son's dad is an alcholic. He is a good man. He lies about his having cancer and is dying every other week of something. Never sent a birthday card or the like, but is a good man. send 100.00 a month. I bought him a computer, paid a cell phone bill and some karate and special things for birthday and christmas. but I am the town whore.
I never married the man who could give me all the travel and live in Fl. I didn't do that. Or stay by them. I did wrong. I left Weirton.
I was accused of stealing her good jewerly and selling it. Call the police and all. It turned out it was my daughter who took it. But I am the one who needs money.
I never did drugs or came home drunk. I was the good kid.
So why do I get this from them.
I remember in about 8th grade one girl who really just didn't like me, she pushed a desk into the back of my legs, I turned around and gave her a left hook of a lifetime. Knocked her back about 5 ft and up about 2ft. Most were really suprised. I just looked at her said do it again I will put you into the closet. They cleared a path like the red sea.
I thought school was to be the time of your life. It depressed me to no end
I wanted to run away every morning I got up. From my home and from the kids I was with.
I hated the town I was in just as much. I knew at some point I would have to leave and never look back. I did move on but the hurt is still there. Because of the instilling of my upbringing and the fact of my mothers' still living.
The accusation of me allowing my own daughter to be molested.
My own father said I didn't give it to my husband so he went to my girl.
He said that I abandoned my son. I left him with my parents to keep so I could find work.
They told my kids that I was a bad person and a whore. didn't want them and they would take better care of them.
That is was more important to get a deposit back than protect my kid from now sex offender.
My mom will allow my ex in her house he is a registered sex offender but I am the bad one for not paying more for my son's support.
My son's dad is an alcholic. He is a good man. He lies about his having cancer and is dying every other week of something. Never sent a birthday card or the like, but is a good man. send 100.00 a month. I bought him a computer, paid a cell phone bill and some karate and special things for birthday and christmas. but I am the town whore.
I never married the man who could give me all the travel and live in Fl. I didn't do that. Or stay by them. I did wrong. I left Weirton.
I was accused of stealing her good jewerly and selling it. Call the police and all. It turned out it was my daughter who took it. But I am the one who needs money.
I never did drugs or came home drunk. I was the good kid.
So why do I get this from them.
grandkids
When you have these kids who think gram and gramps are the king and queen of this hill, that is so cool. They are the ones who don't live with them. It is good that they give them money on the once in the while and such. They super gifts and all.
It is those who live with them it is the problem. They teach them things like, we are the only ones who will take care of you. You mom or dad didn't want you so we will. They give them the idea they will have everything. then they come to say things, I am on retirement I can't afford this.
The kids have to live with the old people and have to have the odorous feeling that kids are really laughing at them. Being raised with the ideals of those who feel that girls who call a boy is the town whore. Good kids stay with in the city that they grew up in because the family is there. You never leave. If a girl or woman is seen leaving the house at night all of a sudden is working the streets or a bar and is no good. If you stay in too much you are mysterious and hiding things. Sneaky. You can't been seen with man if you are to be married or dating or are married who is not your husband because you are now sleeping with him.
You can't be a friend or helping him in some real fashion.
They must stay in the house because if they have a pain some one must help them.
They have to be waited on for all things.
If you do any kind of work, it is to their specifications. If not it is now right in any form.
If asked to do something you will do it right then and there. Not long enough to get up and do it
it is now.
If asked to jump, not how high. for how long then how high.
Don't do as they do.
Grandparents are wiser people they lived in the Great Depression of course they know better.
I give you there are some parents who do wrong by kids. Most don't .
They will talk behind your back and not have the guts to say it to your face.
If you approach this, it is," oh nothing " They will never say anything against an old person.
We need to start to speak of this. Iam. My family will drain me dry and say I needed this. I am the dark sheep because I left the wonderful life of small town America. Weirton WV
That place died 30 yrs ago. Nothing socially, economically or diverse enough to keep even the of a gang in town. I am going to stay there? Every one knows when you take a shit and hands you toilet paper. You expect this place to come back over night with jobs and education. You can't find either. It is pretty bad when the crime leaves town.
It is those who live with them it is the problem. They teach them things like, we are the only ones who will take care of you. You mom or dad didn't want you so we will. They give them the idea they will have everything. then they come to say things, I am on retirement I can't afford this.
The kids have to live with the old people and have to have the odorous feeling that kids are really laughing at them. Being raised with the ideals of those who feel that girls who call a boy is the town whore. Good kids stay with in the city that they grew up in because the family is there. You never leave. If a girl or woman is seen leaving the house at night all of a sudden is working the streets or a bar and is no good. If you stay in too much you are mysterious and hiding things. Sneaky. You can't been seen with man if you are to be married or dating or are married who is not your husband because you are now sleeping with him.
You can't be a friend or helping him in some real fashion.
They must stay in the house because if they have a pain some one must help them.
They have to be waited on for all things.
If you do any kind of work, it is to their specifications. If not it is now right in any form.
If asked to do something you will do it right then and there. Not long enough to get up and do it
it is now.
If asked to jump, not how high. for how long then how high.
Don't do as they do.
Grandparents are wiser people they lived in the Great Depression of course they know better.
I give you there are some parents who do wrong by kids. Most don't .
They will talk behind your back and not have the guts to say it to your face.
If you approach this, it is," oh nothing " They will never say anything against an old person.
We need to start to speak of this. Iam. My family will drain me dry and say I needed this. I am the dark sheep because I left the wonderful life of small town America. Weirton WV
That place died 30 yrs ago. Nothing socially, economically or diverse enough to keep even the of a gang in town. I am going to stay there? Every one knows when you take a shit and hands you toilet paper. You expect this place to come back over night with jobs and education. You can't find either. It is pretty bad when the crime leaves town.
Wednesday, September 16, 2009
thoughts of money
We always here of how we need money for life and to do things. No kidding. We hear that we can be bought off too. Enough of money and we can stay out of trouble and keep trouble from our door. We all heard of the cop who would be paid to keep quiet. In the Scriptures we hear always not being able to serve money and God. In the Gospel of St James we hear of God bringing the poor to table and the rich. We would think we would want the rich by us first. He tell us to put the poor next to us first. He says did he not choose the poor for to be rich in faith and the have the kingdom?
Yet we have those who live for the money and will give to one and not the other child or grandchild because they claim they have a heart. Or they will accuse one of stealing because they feel that they are that desparte for money? Or find ways of taking from them. Will give to a granddaughter not the grandson. Never have a good word, always, can't you help or do this right? Calling the liars and cheats. Devious and sneaks. Asking how much was in a paycheck when they are working.
If you can't give with a heart with out wanting it back why give?
It was said she laid her paycheck on the table every time for her father to see. she had nothing to hide. She also said she on her 13th birthday was given a ironing board and was told it was about time she learned to iron.
If she had such a heart she would not be ruining my life.
If those who have money as she does, would learn it is for those who need and not for the return. If we do things as if we perferred Him in all things
She attends Mass as if that makes her a good person. She doesn't hear the prayers or understand the ritual if you will. She says she doesn't need confession she doen't sin
She is a good person. She is right up there with the Blessed Mother.
She is the most sue happy person I know. Don't let anyone cross the lawn.
She is more concerned with what others think of her than who she is a person. That is who is she what others think of her. One neighbor is not fond of her so that is her enenmy. She can't stand them. Because my son goes over to watch movies and " hang out" and not sitting by her side. Like in the movies. Ed Gein comes to mind now. He has to be there for her if she moves in case she get a pain. Ok she has pain she needs to learn how to deal with this too. She recently took a insurance policy out and says since no one cares to do it I will and I have 10,000 on him. I am the beneficiary. I said ok. She wanted me to fight her for this.
With her is all about the almighty dollar. if you don't have it you are worthless.
She actually said to me my husband needs to divorce me because I am not working. She is the only one who has ever done anything and will do.
I will never be ever able to own anything and have a life due to her. She should be glad as I die this painful death she has put upon me. It is her final wish come true. Now we wait for her to go as well. You die as you live and live as you die.........
Yet we have those who live for the money and will give to one and not the other child or grandchild because they claim they have a heart. Or they will accuse one of stealing because they feel that they are that desparte for money? Or find ways of taking from them. Will give to a granddaughter not the grandson. Never have a good word, always, can't you help or do this right? Calling the liars and cheats. Devious and sneaks. Asking how much was in a paycheck when they are working.
If you can't give with a heart with out wanting it back why give?
It was said she laid her paycheck on the table every time for her father to see. she had nothing to hide. She also said she on her 13th birthday was given a ironing board and was told it was about time she learned to iron.
If she had such a heart she would not be ruining my life.
If those who have money as she does, would learn it is for those who need and not for the return. If we do things as if we perferred Him in all things
She attends Mass as if that makes her a good person. She doesn't hear the prayers or understand the ritual if you will. She says she doesn't need confession she doen't sin
She is a good person. She is right up there with the Blessed Mother.
She is the most sue happy person I know. Don't let anyone cross the lawn.
She is more concerned with what others think of her than who she is a person. That is who is she what others think of her. One neighbor is not fond of her so that is her enenmy. She can't stand them. Because my son goes over to watch movies and " hang out" and not sitting by her side. Like in the movies. Ed Gein comes to mind now. He has to be there for her if she moves in case she get a pain. Ok she has pain she needs to learn how to deal with this too. She recently took a insurance policy out and says since no one cares to do it I will and I have 10,000 on him. I am the beneficiary. I said ok. She wanted me to fight her for this.
With her is all about the almighty dollar. if you don't have it you are worthless.
She actually said to me my husband needs to divorce me because I am not working. She is the only one who has ever done anything and will do.
I will never be ever able to own anything and have a life due to her. She should be glad as I die this painful death she has put upon me. It is her final wish come true. Now we wait for her to go as well. You die as you live and live as you die.........
it is time to begin this
Open Letter to those have made life and those around a living hell
About 16 or so yrs ago, my dad, Joe De Marco made the conscience decision to make his own daughter’s life a down ward spiral to hell and gone.
I had left my son with he and my mother Vivian De Marco because I wanted to find a better life out side of the economically and sociological depressed town of Weirton WV.
That was one of the biggest mistakes of my life. Once I left to travel west for work , my parents make tracks to the court house claiming I am the town whore and abandonment was my life and dropped of the boy with no know intent of where I was or going.
They knew I was headed to Seattle WA with an interview in hand.
I get this interview by was of temp agency and hired in about 3 weeks. I come home and tell my father once I get me settled I will come home to get the boy once I know all is secure. I had no real place to live yet or anything. I didn’t think it was a good idea to take him with me yet.
I leave and think all is fine, they return to the court and say she is off again.
They receive full custody and an order for 386.00 a month for support. On the idea that I am full employee. Yet they say they have no idea where I am. With temp agency they reserve the right to let you go within 90days. At will employment, unless the employer takes you on. I got let go on day 46. So my income went from 2500. a month to 8.67 hr,. Still having to 386.00 month to my dad.
Moving forward in time my dad is now passed on and my mom is still chasing me for this money. I now have a full diagnosis of Vascular Lupus with kidney involvement. In other words I am full disabled. To my mom this is just an excuse. In her words,” I have a broken back I work” “ I knew a woman who had lupus and still played golf and moved to FL.” Well that is her not me. I can’t have this because it would make me more sick than my mom is sick. She broke her back long time ago. Has RA and other things
She did go through a triple bi pass. I am no making light of her condition.
I have 4 medical reports from different places that will back this all up. No standing for more than 15 min. No walking for more than 75 yds. Sitting for more than 25 min. lack of range of motion. Blood tests to proof of all this. It is all made up to my mom. Excuses. Moms will scrub floors for a kid.
Now with this Child support on my file I appear as if to have Federal debt on my record and no would hire me anyway with this. She will not drop this. She is more concerned with her money coming to her and what is left sitting there. Why doesn’t she run down there and her 400.. greedy bitch. Mind you child support has none of these records of my disability. But they would not accept them anyway. Because it disagrees with what they want.
She has ruined my life by this I can’t buy anything or the like. We have not had a tax return in 10 yrs because of her. My marriage is on the rocks because of her an I am going to lose my SSDI for her. This is all she is interested in. She will drain me dry before she is happy. Her concern is only of Vivian and what she gets out of life. She said that my husband needs to divorce me because I don’t work. She has this idea that we have this money laying about and I can just send it when ever. 500.00 here and 300.00 here. Just like that. No problem. Between a mortgage and car and insurance and thing we have about 150 each pay left for us.
We did buy him a computer paid a cell phone bill and get things he really wanted, paid for some of a karate bill. It may not be a lot but it is some things. I do what I can when I can. Couldn’t pay for a new pair of glasses, sorry. Don’t have 300.00 just laying around. Bought second hand doors for the house by the way. Took money from a 401k to help pay for other needed things. Yea we have money… why are we taking it from there.
Hubby has no raise for 2 1/2 yrs and yet we keep moving on. No one is helping us here.
I want my son out here to live and work for a while to keep him from the life there of infused depression and nothingness there. His friends are more important to him right now. They are going to pay the bills and keep him. Right all 19 and 20 and wealthy. Walk the neighbor hood and smoke black and milds.
At least here he would have a job and maybe an education. He can’t even get that back there.
Other than an old woman to hound him of how bad he does everything and not done right.
This total is now over 30,000
The parents who went behind my back to do this what more or less could they then do.
I thought parents were to help and no hinder a child.. They have done so much worse. Never encourage or to build up only you can’t do nothing right. Or you don’t this like this. Never a good job. I failed to mention that these people are claiming to be good up standing Catholics… I do have to remember she has all the answers, she is right and 86. Lived the world and it problems and she is the sage for all No one has better wisdom than her. They have no respect for the privacy of one. Accused me of stealing from them. Because they thought, note that word, thought, I needed money.. She said I stole her good and precious jewelry from here and sold it a pawn shop. The police were called and they said if I left with my husband who is from the UK it would be come an Interpol case. My thought was let it. It turned out my daughter did it. No apology. But that is how much they think of me. This woman who claims she has a heart. She is too kind not to help others .Not mean or would give the shirt off her back, because she is a good Christian.
She claims she is the only one who would work to keep the kids. She will bring up things of 25 yrs ago to remind one of the mistakes you have made.
Claire Redfern
About 16 or so yrs ago, my dad, Joe De Marco made the conscience decision to make his own daughter’s life a down ward spiral to hell and gone.
I had left my son with he and my mother Vivian De Marco because I wanted to find a better life out side of the economically and sociological depressed town of Weirton WV.
That was one of the biggest mistakes of my life. Once I left to travel west for work , my parents make tracks to the court house claiming I am the town whore and abandonment was my life and dropped of the boy with no know intent of where I was or going.
They knew I was headed to Seattle WA with an interview in hand.
I get this interview by was of temp agency and hired in about 3 weeks. I come home and tell my father once I get me settled I will come home to get the boy once I know all is secure. I had no real place to live yet or anything. I didn’t think it was a good idea to take him with me yet.
I leave and think all is fine, they return to the court and say she is off again.
They receive full custody and an order for 386.00 a month for support. On the idea that I am full employee. Yet they say they have no idea where I am. With temp agency they reserve the right to let you go within 90days. At will employment, unless the employer takes you on. I got let go on day 46. So my income went from 2500. a month to 8.67 hr,. Still having to 386.00 month to my dad.
Moving forward in time my dad is now passed on and my mom is still chasing me for this money. I now have a full diagnosis of Vascular Lupus with kidney involvement. In other words I am full disabled. To my mom this is just an excuse. In her words,” I have a broken back I work” “ I knew a woman who had lupus and still played golf and moved to FL.” Well that is her not me. I can’t have this because it would make me more sick than my mom is sick. She broke her back long time ago. Has RA and other things
She did go through a triple bi pass. I am no making light of her condition.
I have 4 medical reports from different places that will back this all up. No standing for more than 15 min. No walking for more than 75 yds. Sitting for more than 25 min. lack of range of motion. Blood tests to proof of all this. It is all made up to my mom. Excuses. Moms will scrub floors for a kid.
Now with this Child support on my file I appear as if to have Federal debt on my record and no would hire me anyway with this. She will not drop this. She is more concerned with her money coming to her and what is left sitting there. Why doesn’t she run down there and her 400.. greedy bitch. Mind you child support has none of these records of my disability. But they would not accept them anyway. Because it disagrees with what they want.
She has ruined my life by this I can’t buy anything or the like. We have not had a tax return in 10 yrs because of her. My marriage is on the rocks because of her an I am going to lose my SSDI for her. This is all she is interested in. She will drain me dry before she is happy. Her concern is only of Vivian and what she gets out of life. She said that my husband needs to divorce me because I don’t work. She has this idea that we have this money laying about and I can just send it when ever. 500.00 here and 300.00 here. Just like that. No problem. Between a mortgage and car and insurance and thing we have about 150 each pay left for us.
We did buy him a computer paid a cell phone bill and get things he really wanted, paid for some of a karate bill. It may not be a lot but it is some things. I do what I can when I can. Couldn’t pay for a new pair of glasses, sorry. Don’t have 300.00 just laying around. Bought second hand doors for the house by the way. Took money from a 401k to help pay for other needed things. Yea we have money… why are we taking it from there.
Hubby has no raise for 2 1/2 yrs and yet we keep moving on. No one is helping us here.
I want my son out here to live and work for a while to keep him from the life there of infused depression and nothingness there. His friends are more important to him right now. They are going to pay the bills and keep him. Right all 19 and 20 and wealthy. Walk the neighbor hood and smoke black and milds.
At least here he would have a job and maybe an education. He can’t even get that back there.
Other than an old woman to hound him of how bad he does everything and not done right.
This total is now over 30,000
The parents who went behind my back to do this what more or less could they then do.
I thought parents were to help and no hinder a child.. They have done so much worse. Never encourage or to build up only you can’t do nothing right. Or you don’t this like this. Never a good job. I failed to mention that these people are claiming to be good up standing Catholics… I do have to remember she has all the answers, she is right and 86. Lived the world and it problems and she is the sage for all No one has better wisdom than her. They have no respect for the privacy of one. Accused me of stealing from them. Because they thought, note that word, thought, I needed money.. She said I stole her good and precious jewelry from here and sold it a pawn shop. The police were called and they said if I left with my husband who is from the UK it would be come an Interpol case. My thought was let it. It turned out my daughter did it. No apology. But that is how much they think of me. This woman who claims she has a heart. She is too kind not to help others .Not mean or would give the shirt off her back, because she is a good Christian.
She claims she is the only one who would work to keep the kids. She will bring up things of 25 yrs ago to remind one of the mistakes you have made.
Claire Redfern
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